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I used to give people pieces of my mind. Now, I know I cannot afford such giveaways.

by Rick Baker
On Feb 26, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Even if I could afford to waste my brain, it's much more fulfilling to cut people up to size.

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Criticism: Constructive Criticism is an Oxymoron | Humour | Thought Tweets

Winners seek solutions and think of better places. Losers agonize over problems and fear uncertainty.

by Rick Baker
On Feb 10, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The choice is yours.

Choose fixing the problem over fixing the blame.

The Law of the Barbell: Some people spot, some people lift, and some people just keep adding weights.

by Rick Baker
On Jan 30, 2017

For example, consider Civility...

Civility is defined as polite and respectable behaviour. It is part of good manners. Good manners means things like respect, civility, and harmony. Whereas, bad manners means the opposite: disrespect, incivility, and conflict. Good manners are linked to courteous behavior, which is marked by visible consideration of others. 

Some people 'spot': they return kindness with kindness; if you are respectful of them, they return the favour.

Some people 'lift': they display natural civility and courteousness, both learned traits [either taught by parents or others in early childhood or learned through self-education].

Some people 'just keep adding weights': they appear to derive satisfaction out of criticizing, humbling, and otherwise causing grief for other people. Evidently, they do not understand this approach removes the ability for long-term success. Sure, it can yield short-term results. Regardless, over time, no strong person will tolerate people who 'just keep adding weights' to their lives. And, people who are not strong will struggle more as weights are added and ultimately be crushed, in spirit if not physically. And, people who are not strong are by nature not very helpful on the road to long-term success.

The road to long-term success contains a nearly-endless series of challenges. People who 'spot' and people who 'lift' do a better job of handling those challenges. People who are civil and courteous do a better job of handling those challenges.

People eat sour fruit sparingly. Yet they complain about it much.

by Rick Baker
On Jan 18, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Sometimes sour fruit is the best thing to consume. The British found that out several centuries ago and the practice of eating limes was encouraged by Scottish Dr. James Lind. He helped the British Navy understand limes and lime juice prevented sailors from the pain and suffering of scurvy. This fact was known prior to the arrival of Dr. Lind. And, the benefit of limes was well understood when he documented proof. Yet, the practice of eating limes to prevent scurvy was not adopted by the British Navy until some time later.

The first sailors who ate limes were ridiculed. By fellow sailors and pirates alike.

To this day the legacy of ridicule lives on in the form of a derogatory/racist ancestor of the word lime.

To this day, people resist when others try to force them to eat sour fruit.

So, take care when you try to unload sour fruit on your people.

Care taken while introducing sour fruit is inversely proportional to the amount of complaining that introduction generates. The greater the care, the lesser the complaints.

Even objective, well-intentioned, well-delivered criticism gnaws, rips, and tears into thin skin.

by Rick Baker
On Jan 11, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Criticism will always gnaw, rip, and tear at thin skin. That is a given. The only question is: how will the thin-skinned person react as the thin skin rips and tears? The natural reactions are fight & flight...aggression & avoidance. 

And, of importance – will ‘motivation’ get dragged into the bloody discussion after the ripping and tearing of thin skin? Sometimes it will. More often the thought will be there, but it will be unspoken. And, as they say, “It's the thought that counts.” I have strong views on ‘motivation’, and my strong views contain intolerance of those who blame others for the failures or the lack of motivation. Bosses have a tough enough job without having to bear the burden of every subordinate’s ‘motivation’.

Perhaps, complaining about other people is gratifying...perhaps, it satisfies a need?

by Rick Baker
On Jan 9, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Why do people complain about the actions of another person?

Presumably, the answer is - complaining about other people is gratifying, it fills a need. But, what exactly is that need?

And, does complaining about other people satisfy a single need? Or, does the need-satisfaction vary with the person who is the topic of complaint?

Self-monitoring: the next time you're about to complain about another person, stop and think. Ask yourself, "Why do this person's actions make me want to complain?" "What will happen if I delay complaining about this person for 15 minutes? Or, 1 hour? Or, 1 day?" "What gratification will I sacrifice if I delay or refuse to allow myself to complain about this person?"

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