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Do you commit to being useful every day from here to eternity? Has making yourself useful become one of your good habits?

by Rick Baker
On May 21, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We all have good days and bad days; our internal drive-energy ebbs and flows.

Regardless, we can commit to thinking and doing useful things...every day...for the rest of our lives.

[Why wouldn't we commit to thinking and doing useful things?]

[What reason could we possibly have for not committing to that?]

You don't settle for just learning when the seas are calm; you choose to learn when all Hell’s breakin’ loose out there.

by Rick Baker
On May 20, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We are well into that Future Shocked world.

Some say it's a scary place.

Some see amazing opportunities.

Regardless, all of us have but one Earth-life to live...might as well participate in the learning experience.


 

Success happens when we do a lot of little things right...after learning from a lot of little things done wrong.

by Rick Baker
On May 19, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

On the road to success, we make mistakes. When we make mistakes we have the opportunity to learn from them.

We have the opportunity to not make the same mistake. And we also have the opportunity to not make similar mistakes.

We can take a solution for one mistake and use it, in the future, to troubleshoot other situations so we don't make other mistakes. In other words we can both institutionalize solutions and generalize solutions by applying them to foreseeable situations that lend themselves to similar solutions.

With this approach we can learn from our errors.

We can learn how to avoid repeating errors.

We can also learn how to troubleshoot and remove the amount of errors we face in the future.

 

Knowledge costs money and lack of knowledge costs more.

by Rick Baker
On May 16, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We must pay to learn.

We can buy knowledge contained in books.

We can buy knowledge contained in hard knocks

We must pay much for knowledge in order to have much.

If we do not pay much for knowledge, we pay even more.

 

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Thinking as in Think and Grow Rich | Thought Tweets | Values: Personal Values

Criticism, Adrenalin Spikes & Improving Relationships

by Rick Baker
On May 15, 2017

Some people naturally repulse criticism. These people may show outward signs of their repulsion. These people may not show outward signs, or their repulsion may hide so well it would take a professional observer to notice it. Regardless, internally, these people churn in reaction to criticism. For these people - even small, innocuous pieces of feedback can trigger intense internal reactions, floods of adrenalin – adrenalin spikes.

  1. Do you know people who show vehement reaction to tiny criticisms…people who have zero tolerance for incoming criticism?
  2. Do you know people who, at first, show no outward reaction to criticism then, later, strike excessive reactionary blows against the person who delivered the criticism?
  3. Do you know people who have the habit of claiming they are the victim of undue criticism?
  4. Do you know people who repulse criticism yet deliver it to others with gusto and righteousness?

These are four common reactions to criticism.

I have personally exhibited at least three of these four reactions to criticism…and, probably, many people would think I’m selling myself short by not admitting to all four.

Why?

Why would I have had such reactions to criticism?

Not having much knowledge of physiology or biology and only dabbling experience with psychology I answer that question this way:

  • When people criticized me, I experienced adrenalin spikes [or was that cortisol?]. I felt strong, churning, tightening sensations in the gut…quickly followed by combinations of anxiety and anger, often intense anger...then excessive negative thoughts and behaviour.
  • This reaction must have started when I was a very young child. I have no memory of reacting any other way to criticism [until the last decade, that is].
  • Perhaps, my criticism-repulsion was are due to genetics? Perhaps, my childhood environment? Perhaps, my early experiences with authority figures? I expect it was some combination of these things.

Here’s a curious thing. When you experience criticism-repulsion as a child you can be quite oblivious to other people. And, this can cause challenges…a large variety of interpersonal challenges. Left unattended, these interpersonal challenges can last a lifetime.

Here’s some good news. It is possible to gain self-understanding and create strategies to overcome the interpersonal challenges. The starting point, or at least one starting point, is recognition of the physiological changes that signal less-than-ideal reactions to criticism. People, perhaps most people, can alter their bad habits [including adrenalin spikes] if they choose to make the changes and do the work required.

 

PS: Perhaps, the people who experience the criticism-repulsion I have described are most capable of identifying it in other people? ... and helping others?  

The power behind our reactions is far too important to be left to chance.

by Rick Baker
On May 15, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Knee-jerk reactions catch our attention and we hold them in disfavour. Yet – what are we doing to make sure they don’t happen?

What are you doing to anticipate situations/circumstances and pre-plan the release of the power of your reactions?

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