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I have much I want to listen to you!

by Rick Baker
On Jan 19, 2017

Have you ever noticed, nobody ever says that to you? Lots of people let you know they have things to say to you. And, sometimes, people provide advance notice, letting you know they want to say much to you. This is presented in words like, “Let’s meet. I have much I want to share with you.

But you never hear, “Let’s meet. I have much I want to listen to you.

Perhaps most people will justify this by pointing out that sort of talk is grammatically incorrect, or at least grammatically awkward. While that may be true and is certainly a fair argument it does not explain why people never say grammatically-better things like, “Come over here. I want to listen to you…right now.” People don’t say things like that let alone yell them at you. Yet, they do yell things like, “Come over here. I want to talk to you…right now!

People do not call you to come so they can listen to you. They call you so you can listen to them. And sometimes they illustrate their enthusiasm as they call out to you by injecting invective words into their calls, as in, “Hey idiot. Come here. I want to talk to you…right now!

At least, that’s been my experience.

But, I know I should not give up on this.

Being open minded I shall not give up listening in hopes of hearing, “I have much I want to listen to you.” 

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Communication: Improving Communication | Humour

Comments (2) -

Bryan Huck
1/22/2017 11:12:34 AM #

Hi Rick,
I will offer a different view on this - if you hang around or engage authentic, experienced professional coaches, they are the ones that enjoy listening to you ... and then provide some deep insights from listening to your tones and expressions that you have never been able to get for yourself.  I have experienced this first hand and do strive to offer this to other business leaders.  I agree it is rare - even when in the company of various people who refer to themselves as "coaches".  

It is often said, "be the change you want to see in this world", so I do encourage your readers to be this type of person - and show genuine enthusiasm when listening to others and not rushing to "add value" to the conversation by talking.  You will be amazed at how mutually rewarding this actually is. It is within all of us to practice this skill and get better at it.  

Bryan Huck
Your strategy Navigator
bryan@yourstrategynavigator.ca
    

rick baker
2/5/2017 5:13:39 PM #

Well said, Bryan.

Clearly, you promote the listening skills.


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