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If you treat people like losers, you will not see them win.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 20, 2015

If you treat people like losers, you will not see them win:

  • You will see some of them lose
  • You will see the rest of them leave

Some people tolerate abuse. There's never a positive reason behind that tolerance.

Perhaps, they tolerate your abuse because they are in fear [and fear is closely related to weakness]. Often, weak people stay in abusive situations. Rarely, do they 'win'...so, you see them lose.

Perhaps, they tolerate your abuse because they have a hidden agenda. If this is the case then their goals do not align with your goals so they stay and work in dysfunctional ways to get what they are after. Meanwhile, you get to sense their dysfunction and watch them fail to achieve the goals you have chosen for them. You see them lose. These people may or may not be weak...unless you define deviousness as a weakness...in which case they will qualify as weak.

Some people are stronger than others. You probably will not be too skilled at perceiving this because you have the habit of abusing people.

On the other hand, if people leave after you abuse them then it is a safe bet they were your strong people.

When these people leave you will not see them win.

[Except when they choose to compete with you…in which case you will have the opportunity to receive repeated doses of feedback about their successes.]

 

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