by Rick Baker
On Sep 9, 2020
The Thinking Behind The Tweet
Why do people complain about the actions of another person?
Presumably, the answer is - complaining about other people is gratifying, it fills a need. But, what exactly is that need?
And, does complaining about other people satisfy a single need? Or, does the need-satisfaction vary with the person who is the topic of complaint?
Self-monitoring: the next time you're about to complain about another person, stop and think. Ask yourself, "Why do this person's actions make me want to complain?" "What will happen if I delay complaining about this person for 15 minutes? Or, 1 hour? Or, 1 day?" "What gratification will I sacrifice if I delay or refuse to allow myself to complain about this person?"