by Rick Baker
On Dec 27, 2016
Simon Sinek wrote, “Trust is like love. Both parties have to feel it before it really exists.”
I read Simon’s ‘daily inspiration messages’ and from time to time his thoughts cause me to stop and think. For example – the above message immediately struck me as worthy of thought…because I immediately disagreed with it and felt a need to think through my views and why they contrast Simon’s.
I do not believe trust has to walk on a two-way street.
Certainly, trust often does. And – no question or argument - trust is a wonderful and powerful thing when it is reciprocated. However, I don’t think it has to be reciprocated to ‘really exist’.
It seems to me states of mind including belief, faith and trust are very close relatives and:
- we can believe in something or someone without them necessarily reciprocating; we believe in our heroes while the most of them do not even know of us let alone believe in us
- we place faith in people and God/gods while not necessarily expecting he/she/they has/have faith in us; perhaps or likely we think expectations are placed on us, but we do not go as far as thinking our extension of faith is reciprocated
- we – some of us – are trusting by nature and we trust people until they prove themselves not worthy of our trust; regardless - our extension of trust seems real to us
Now – about comparing trust and love…
Here’s one thought: Many great poets, storytellers and songwriters have banked on the reality of unrequited love.
Now – about reality and what really exists…
Here are a few thoughts: ‘perception is reality’ and ‘perception is not reality’…obviously this is confusing territory...if we want to draw reality into our discussions we must be prepared to enter the realm of philosophers, brain scientists and physicists.
The moral of this Thought Post…
‘Real trust' requires no thought; ‘Synthetic trust' requires much careful thought. 'Real trust' is much better than 'Synthetic trust'. In reality, neither 'real trust' nor 'synthetic trust' are real: rather, they are perceptions...perceptions in singular brain-minds.