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No means No! (...well maybe we need to think a bit more on that!)

by Rick Baker
On Aug 5, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

When I was a kid I heard the word "No" so much I expected to hear it, as a matter of habit.

When I was a kid I was told to say "Yes" so much I started to say it, as a matter for habit.

I've been spending time throughout the rest of my life figuring out how to respond "No" when my little internal voice automatically prompts me to say "Yes" when I really wish I was saying "No". 

If you think time flies, try holding your breath while your boss is telling a story.

by Rick Baker
On May 10, 2018

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Einstein showed us that time is relative.

[Maybe that's why it's easier to hold your breath when a relative is telling a story...but...probably not if that relative is your boss.]



Family Business and CFFB | Humour | I'm too busy! - I don't have time! | Thought Tweets

The essence of business is exchange of value.

by Rick Baker
On May 14, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Stephen R Covey taught - the essence of business is relationships. I believe the essence of business is exchange of value. I believe, in business, exchange of value includes building relationships. Relationships is a subset of the value exchanged in business. No question - relationships are an essential ingredient of life. [Unless, I suppose, one is able to live the life of a hermit.] Certainly, relationships are the essence of society, whether family or community or all of human civilization.


Family Business and CFFB | Personalities @ Work | Thought Tweets | Values: Personal Values

If we had not learned the word "No" so well when we were young, we would spend a lot less time ruminating about our mistakes.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 24, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

When we were young a lot of people started to say "No" to us. We were made to believe it was wrong to say and do certain things....many things. The rules of "No" versus "Yes" were inconsistent, depending on who was saying them and where all of us were when they were being said. Regardless, when we were instructed "No" we received the message we were doing something wrong...i.e., making a mistake. We heard "No" so many times when we were young we still ruminate about our mistakes, sometimes even the mistakes we made when we were young. 

We should shake that off.

If our ancestors thought and acted like they were too busy they would have been eaten. Then where would we be?

by Rick Baker
On Apr 18, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The next time you feel inclined to complain about being too busy think of your ancestors.

Wonderful heritage - Evolution didn't let you down.  Did it?

How about your descendants - what are you passing on to them?

Hopefully, you're not passing on the I'm-too-busy gene.

Honesty and the Other Person's Feelings

by Rick Baker
On Apr 10, 2017

As a child I was admonished to be respectful and take care not to hurt other people’s feelings. 

In general, that’s OK advice. Regardless, I have found it fails as a general rule.

Yes, sometimes our honesty hurts other people. Children often make innocent comments that adults find inappropriate. For example, children notice and comment on differences in people’s appearance and that can be very embarrassing for adults, especially parents. So, with fear of hurting other people’s feelings in mind, early in life many of us learn to place our natural [accurate and innocent] thoughts on hold and keep them to ourselves. Later, as we become less child-like [and more adult-like] we learn to adjust our communication in ways that conceal our true thoughts and replace them with adult-acceptable messages. 

Now, as this 21st Century continues to unfold, it seems feelings are reigning near supreme. 

Are feelings going to undermine honesty?

Considering other people’s feelings: 

Where should lines be drawn between honest expression of thought and suppression of expression? 

Are we doing a good enough job teaching children they and other people have the ability to control their reactions to other people’s words? In fact, with some education and effort each of us can learn self-control, including control over our feelings…are we teaching that to our children?

Are we providing education that opens minds to thickening skin?

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