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Even objective, well-intentioned, well-delivered criticism gnaws, rips, and tears into thin skin.

by Rick Baker
On Sep 11, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Criticism will always gnaw, rip, and tear at thin skin. That is a given. The only question is: how will the thin-skinned person react as the thin skin rips and tears? The natural reactions are fight & flight...aggression & avoidance. 

And, of importance – will ‘motivation’ get dragged into the bloody discussion after the ripping and tearing of thin skin? Sometimes it will. More often the thought will be there, but it will be unspoken. And, as they say, “It's the thought that counts.” I have strong views on ‘motivation’, and my strong views contain intolerance of those who blame others for the failures or the lack of motivation. Bosses have a tough enough job without having to bear the burden of every subordinate’s ‘motivation’.

When you display anger people get defensive. (Wow -Who'd have seen that coming!)

by Rick Baker
On Sep 6, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Some say we should not thwart the natural energy captured in the form of anger.

Perhaps, a bit of anger in the workplace is OK. As long as you're OK with a bit of defensiveness. 

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Humour | Thought Tweets

It isn't about who's right or who's wrong. It's about who does and who doesn't have emotions under control - and Why?

by Rick Baker
On Sep 4, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Disputes in the work environment often escalate. And, they often spread and affect many people. When you face situations of conflict and dispute remember - It isn't about who's right or who's wrong. It's about who doesn't have emotions under control - and Why?

And, of course, make sure you aren't among those who do not have their emotions under control. 

Emotional disputes do a lot of damage and waste a lot of energy [energy - which, if it wasn't being wasted, could be put to constructive use].

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Thought Tweets

Winners seek solutions and think of better places. Losers agonize over problems and fear uncertainty.

by Rick Baker
On Sep 3, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The choice is yours.

Choose fixing the problem over fixing the blame.

Why anger is better than frustration

by Rick Baker
On Sep 1, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Confusion: that's a light sampling of conflicted thought.

Torn between 2...that's a heavier sampling.

Confounded: that can be bloody annoying.

Conflicted thoughts are the roots of frustration.

Frustration gets you nowhere & getting nowhere is frustrating: a vicious circle or downward spiral.

At least when we are angry we are more certain about our thoughts. This is why anger is better than frustration.

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Thinking as in Think and Grow Rich | Thought Tweets

When growth is stalled, many argue in favour of the status quo; fear of change often trumps common sense.

by Rick Baker
On Aug 28, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

This is not a horrible dysfunction, it's just an all-too-common bad habit.

Why would a person not want to take chances, make changes, and grow?

Perhaps we should first explore the extent of their Fear of Criticism and their Fear of Poverty...see Napoleon Hill's 1937 classic, 'Think and Grow Rich'.

Linked to Fear of Poverty - according to psychologists, we fear losing existing things more than we desire gaining new things. Fear of loss outstrips desire for gain by a factor of about 4-to-1.

Do you feel that way?

Do you favour the status quo over change?

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Thought Tweets

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