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Developing your positive mental attitude

by Rick Baker
On Sep 22, 2014

Above and beyond everything else, Courage is the mind state that promotes positive mental attitude.

Like every other mind state, with focused and persistent effort, Courage can be developed.

Courage is about facing fears and acting against them. So, courage is a mind state laced with emotion. It is a mind state where fear is converted into something more positive and constructive. Often, courage is developed accidentally. For example, this happens when a person acts impulsively in reaction to a dangerous or fearful situation.

Of importance, with forethought, deeply rooted courage can be developed intentionally over time through planned action steps.

People know what causes them fear. People can anticipate most of the situations that cause them fear. People can anticipate the actions of other people that trigger experiences of fear. For example, in business, people can anticipate the actions of bosses and know whether or not those actions cause feelings of fear.

Because we have this ability to anticipate we also have the ability to plan ways to counteract these fearful situations before they visit us.

In essence, we can role-play fearful situations in our minds long before those fearful situations happen in reality. While we role-play these fearful situations in our minds we can role-play various reactions to those fearful situations and, in effect, we can train ourselves in advance on the best ways to react to fearful situations. Then, after fearful situations arise and we face them and take pre-planned actions, we can perform self-analyses to assess, rate, adjust, and improve our performance. We can perform iterative processes of planning and testing actions designed to combat fears and build courage. We can repeat these processes until we attain the level of courage we desire.

The more fearful situations we anticipate and plan for the more opportunities we will have to test different actions and observe results…the goal being fear management and its counterpart, development of courage. This process helps us master our fears, build courage, and build self-confidence. This process itself is a process of courage. It is the best way to build self-confidence, that state of mind where we know we have the ability to address and handle situations when they arise.

Courage and self-confidence are the states of mind most conducive to allowing us to build positive mental attitudes toward other people and situations and indeed toward ourselves.

Top performers feel disappointed in themselves when they make errors. Then, quickly, they replace that thinking with confidence.

by Rick Baker
On Sep 16, 2014

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Leaders' superior skills can be damned annoying

by Rick Baker
On Sep 16, 2014

I've never met a leader, including the bad ones, who did not exhibit superior skills in the area of attention to detail.

Similarly, leaders exhibit superior ability at accurately storing and later retrieving information in real time.

Linked to these skills, superior leaders have the ability to recognize patterns and identify both problems and opportunities when and where situations illustrate problem-patterns and opportunity-patterns...and leaders do this in real time.

Unfortunately, these skills confuse and even annoy followers. This is especially true when the leader's body language sends anything but positive signals. Of course, when body language is perceived as negative it is hard to engage and enthuse other people. But, when negative body language is coupled with superior attention to detail, capacity to store information, and capability to retrieve accurate information in real time the result can be damned annoying. At least, many if not most, followers of business leaders see it that way.

And, this is a common problem in business. 

In business, many followers are intimidated by leaders' skills...I mean the very strengths that helped bring the leader to the position of leader cause conflict between the leader and his/her followers. 

It's a shame!

It's a shame that many leaders do not know they should control their body language in order to have a chance to use their key strengths.

It's a shame that many followers do not know they should forgive the leader's body language and allow all to gain advantage from fully using their leader's key talents.

On the other hand...it's a shame that can easily be converted from a lose-lose to a win-win.

 


For the love of...words.

by Rick Baker
On Sep 10, 2014

Recently, after reading one of my posts, a new acquaintance wrote to me and said, "You must love words".

That got me thinking.

Yes, of course, I do love words.

Our English language is ripe with interesting twists and turns and full of humour...humour laced with curious surprise.

I love to read words.

I love to write words.

But, most of all, I love to think about words.

That will probably surprise many people because I expect many people perceive me as more of a talker than a thinker.

What's worse, most people probably perceive me as a complainer, possibly a rather pessimistic person. Naturally, I have a much kinder opinion of myself. I consider myself to be more of a thinker than, say, a constant complainer. That is not to say I do not express objections rather regularly. (so much for whatever that rule means about 'no double negatives')

I have learned to free up time to listen to most [but not all] people who complain. Usually, where there's smoke there's fire. And, where there's fire a spark is likely to be lurking nearby. And we all know sparks ignite.

And sometimes sparks ignite change for the better.

I wouldn't want to be blind to those sparks.

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Curiosity uncovers problems.

Complaints are, at their roots, statements of problems.

Problems are wonderful routes to opportunities.

P=2S+O

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It's attitude that counts most. 

Problems uncovered with a spirit of adventure are valuable enough to excuse the complaints that carry them.

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Don't shoot the messenger until you've at least had a chance to see the opportunity.



Some people just can't buy into other's ideas

by Rick Baker
On Aug 18, 2014

ANTs and other buy-in killers...

What is it about some people that makes it so hard for them to buy into other people's ideas and requests?

Is it just intolerant attitude?

Is it resistance to not-made-at-home ideas?

Is it fear from ANTs, those nagging automatic negative thoughts?

There's no question we all suffer from those ANTs...those little voices in the backs of our minds that keep sending us strings of warnings about other people and their nasty or misguided intentions. Those little voices in the backs of our minds that work around the clock in an effort to protect us and our interests. Those little voices in the backs of our minds that deliver never-ending streams of ANTs.

Yes, I suspect it's those ANTs that cause us to resist buying into other people's ideas.

Yes, if we ever want to buy into other people's ideas we must get our ANTs under control.

...let's set some ANT traps.

5 reasons to listen: (1) to respond, (2) to act, (3) to understand, (4) because it's your job, & (5) because you like people.

by Rick Baker
On Aug 12, 2014

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Most people listen poorly.

It's reciprocal: people don't listen to them so they return the disfavour.

Then there's this pent up ego demand to express thoughts rather than listen to them.

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If we don't relearn how to listen evolution is going to adapt our ears into oblivion.

[One drawback of civilization: people who don't listen no longer get eaten by predators.]

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