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Big Changes, Difficult Changes...never Impossible Changes

by Rick Baker
On Apr 22, 2014

"It is very difficult to make really big, important, life-changing decisions because we are all susceptible to a formidable array of decision biases. There are more of them than we realize and they come to visit us more often than we'd like to admit."

Dan Ariely

'The Upside of Irrationality' (2010)

 

While, in relative terms, it is easy to make small, less-important decisions these decisions too are affected by our biases. And these small decisions too can be life changing.

Here's why/how they can be life changing:

The small changes happen bit by bit over time. We have a word for these changes. We call them "habits". Some of them are good; some of them are bad; all of them change our lives by influencing our thoughts & actions and by influencing how we are perceived by others. To the extent the small changes are founded on emotions they contain more lasting power. So, small changes - especially those small changes that grew out of an emotional base - have the ability to influence our thoughts & actions for long periods of time.

Big decisions & small decisions and big changes & small changes: all can contribute in long-lasting ways to develop a person's character. [In fact, when you stop to think about it, what else contributes to the building and maintenance of a person's character?]

Regardless, it is possible for people to make permanent & positive adjustments to their character.

Yes - easy to say, difficult to do...

One simply needs to commit to creating better habits then do the repetition of thought & action required to generate and solidify those better habits.


Thought Tweet #982

by Rick Baker
On Apr 22, 2014

Thought Tweet #982 When growth is stalled, many argue in favour of the status quo; fear of change often trumps common sense.


The Thinking Behind The Tweet

This is not a horrible dysfunction, it's just an all-too-common bad habit.

Why would a person not want to take chances, make changes, and grow?

Perhaps we should first explore the extent of their Fear of Criticism and their Fear of Poverty...see Napoleon Hill's 1937 classic, 'Think and Grow Rich'.

Linked to Fear of Poverty - according to psychologists, we fear losing existing things more than we desire gaining new things. Fear of loss outstrips desire for gain by a factor of about 4-to-1.

Do you feel that way?

Do you favour the status quo over change?

Thought Tweet #980

by Rick Baker
On Apr 18, 2014

Thought Tweet #980 How do we rebuild trust? One small, well-thought-out, personal, positive step at a time. 

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Maybe you care about the damage trust has experienced?

Maybe you want to repair that damage?

Maybe you do not know how?

Thought Tweet #948

by Rick Baker
On Mar 5, 2014

Thought Tweet #948 If you want to teach people how to drink water, don't stuff garden hoses down their throats.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Good things come in small packages.

Good education comes in small packages.

If you want to teach people how to drink water, provide them repeated opportunities to gain experience sipping from small, half-full drinking glasses.

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If you want to teach people how to drink water, bring the right tools...bring simple tools, like drinking glasses...no garden hoses...no fire hoses...no artesian well trackers or fancy 24-hour, on-demand pumps or state-of-the-art osmosis gizmos...

...just drinking glasses.

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Change: Creating Positive Change | Humour | Thought Tweets

Thought Tweet #947

by Rick Baker
On Mar 4, 2014

Thought Tweet #947 Fear is neither our birthright nor our destiny...it is simply a bad habit we picked up and chose to live with...or overcome.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

To overcome fear people must do small amounts of the thing they fear and experience small successes. 

Positive thinking is helpful. Positive action is truly powerful.

Fear crumbles when assaulted repeatedly by methodical small actions.

Fear of Failure

by Rick Baker
On Mar 4, 2014

I recently read an article posted at the Engineering Leadership LinkedIn Group.

In the article, the author stated fear of failure is something like a bad heritage from our ancestors”.

I shared the following thoughts...

What an interesting viewpoint…genetic predisposition to fear failure…

Certainly we are born with the ‘ability to fear’. [We see evidence of that when newborns respond to loud noises.]

But, are we born with a predisposition to ‘fear failure’?

I mean, are we genetically wired to fear failure?

Or, do we learn to fear failure?

To the extent we accept we learn to fear failure we can be confident we can reverse that learning and learn to not fear failure.

To the extent we accept we are hard-wired to fear failure we are less confident about our ability to overcome the fear of failure.

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I prefer to believe we are born with the ability to fear and our reactions to life experiences determine the role fear plays in our lives.

I believe about 25% of people are predisposed to be natural-born optimists, 25% of people are predisposed to be natural-born pessimists, and the remaining 50% are predisposed to be middle-of-the-road optimist-pessimists. I also believe those who are not natural-born optimists can increase their level of optimism if they choose to work at it.

If our experiences have caused us to fear failure then we can remedy that if we want to and are prepared to work at it. To remove fear of failure we must first take steps to understand the specifics about our fears of failure, which may be quite different than the fears of failure experienced by others. We cannot fix our overall fear of failure so we must isolate each specific fear of failure and work on one at a time. When we work on a single fear of failure, we need to take baby steps of action aimed in the direction of the failure we fear. 

As an example, consider the fear of failing at Public Speaking.

Many people fear public speaking because they, for one reason or another, believe they will fail when they 'public speak'. They believe their public-speaking failure will be accompanied by negatives such as criticism or ridicule and those negatives will lead to embarrassment or loss of stature or some other form of pain. To overcome this fear of failure, the person needs to experience a small success tied to performing a small act of speaking in public. This first step can be done very easily. Here's how: take the person to lunch and ask a simple question...any simple question will do...for example, you can ask "What do you think of the weather?" When the person answers the question, bring it to his or her attention that he or she just public spoke without experiencing any fear or any failure. Compliment the person on his or her public speaking success. Then progress the public-speaking activity slowly...building on that first, small, positive, successful step.

NOTE: There is no need to send the fearful person to a public-speaking course. In fact, that would be a mistake, a particularly damaging mistake if it is done early in the process of overcoming the fear. To overcome fear of failure, people need to experience small doses of exposure to the feared task and experience small successful actions. This is especially important during the early steps of change...when sensitivities will be running high. And, to maximize your ability to help - lighten it up...use your positive personality...and a little properly placed humour will guide attention in constructive directions and help reduce negative feelings such as anxiety.

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