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Learn how to kill negative thoughts before negative thoughts kill your willpower

by Rick Baker
On Jul 27, 2015

Willpower: that's when the brain, through conscious thought, forces/guides the body to behave in ways that lead toward [are consistent with] long-term goals.

Willpower requires two things:

  1. will & 
  2. power 

Science tells us power is the rate of doing work. And, we all know work takes effort, consumes energy, is hard to do relative to other things.

The human brain cannot perform negative thoughts and exercise willpower at the same time. Since willpower is tough to do and negative thinking is easy to do the brain favours negative thinking. So - the slightest amount of negative thought energy has the ability to totally displace willpower. This is how your negative thoughts kill your willpower.

They key to exercising willpower is learning how to nip negative thoughts in the bud.

In order to nip negative thoughts in the bud, you need a plan & a process. I suppose there are many ways to go about nipping negative thoughts in the bud. However, I have only found one that works for me. I find two things must be done before I can nip negative thoughts in the bud:

  1. Stillness: I must stop moving and remain as still as possible for, at least, a short period of time.
  2. Silence: I must be silent and, to the extent possible, be in a quiet environment.
I have found Stillness & Silence provide the best opportunity to monitor thoughts. When I monitor my thoughts I can quickly determine my negative thoughts. They show us as worries, anxieties, and little stresses and strains and they do not take me toward my desired goals. My negative thoughts are trouble-causing servants of my Ego. They are the signals of my bad habits and the catalysts that drive my bad habits. They reduce my ability to achieve my desired goals.

Only after negative thoughts are identified and recognized as negative can they be removed. Negative thoughts come to us so naturally and are very easy to do...so it can be difficult, or seem difficult, to remove them. With practice, difficult things become easy. Practice improves the ability to remove unwanted thoughts.

When we remove our negative thoughts we pave the path for our willpower. Actually, we partially pave the path. Willpower will never walk on easy paths. Willpower can come easier...but never easy. Willpower will always require 'will', which is a good habit that takes hold when you have and practice a plan and a process. Willpower will always require 'power', which can only exist when negative thoughts are removed.

As you contemplate a productive 2015...

by Rick Baker
On Dec 29, 2014

As you contemplate a productive 2015...

Consider the following questions:

  • For the upcoming year how would you define success?
  • What gaps exist between where your business is now and that success?
  • What personal changes do people (does each person) need to make to span those gaps?
  • What personal changes do you need to make to influence people as they span those gaps?
  • What help do you need to make your personal changes?

When I use the words "personal changes", I am thinking...

People Do Only 3 Things: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things:

Good Habits take people toward their long-term goals and vision of success.

Bad Habits do not.

New Things are, by definition, "personal changes". 

Empathy - a genuine interest in and ability to understand another person's feelings - a wonderful gift to possess.

by Rick Baker
On Aug 27, 2014

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Some people who teach social psychology and communication define empathy as the ability to share other people's feelings; others define empathy as the ability to understand other people's feelings.

I think it is important to ask how a person defines a word rather than assume they use the same definition I use.

Sense of Urgency - Sense of Adventure

by Rick Baker
On Jul 23, 2014

The topic 'Sense of Urgency' arose during a conversation today. 

Got me thinking...

Sense of Urgency DEF'N: that's wanting to take prompt action when you know the right thing to do.

But, what about when you want to take prompt action and you aren't sure about the right thing to do - you simply have the urge to take action? Doesn't that also qualify as a Sense of Urgency?

No - I don't think simply wanting to take action satisfies the minimum standard associated with a meaningful Sense of Urgency...i.e., when Urgency is meaningful like the type of 'Urgency' Stephen R. Covey taught about in his Urgency-Important lessons.

[And, if we are not talking about that sort of meaningful Urgency, an Urgency that requires us to use Sense, then what kind of Urgency are we talking about?]

2 Related Points:

  1. When we know the right action to take in a given Situation and we feel that action should be initiated sooner rather than later...that's a Sense of Urgency...that's a good thing...that's closely linked with identifying Opportunities and acting quickly to seize advantage. That's the stuff of entrepreneurship
  2. When we want to take prompt action without believing/knowing that action is the right action to be taking...well...that's a Sense of Adventure!
Sense of Adventure is a good thing too. 

Sense of Adventure is a different thing.

Sense of Adventure fits certain Situations.

Sense of Urgency fits other Situations.

Perhaps we need to communicate more clearly when we are driven to take prompt action?

We wouldn't want other people to mistake our Sense of Adventure for a Sense of Urgency...would we?

We wouldn't want other people to mistake our Sense of Urgency for a Sense of Adventure...would we?

A couple of good communication habits - Interest: WHY I'm doing something. Intent: WHAT I'm wanting to do.

by Rick Baker
On Jul 18, 2014

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Communicating our Interests. Communicating our Intent. 

Good Habits to do.

Accountability arrived before Responsibility

by Rick Baker
On Jul 15, 2014

Accountability arrived before Responsibility...at least the on-line Merriam-Webster dictionary says that...the word Accountability joined the English language in 1770 and the word Responsibility arrived the following year.

Isn't that counter-intuitive?

Also, according to Merriam-Webster

Definition of ACCOUNTABILITY

:  the quality or state of being accountable; especially :  an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions

First known use 1770

and

Definition of RESPONSIBILITY

: the state of being the person who caused something to happen

: a duty or task that you are required or expected to do

First known use 1771

In the Merriam-Webster on-line dictionary we see Accountability defined in terms of 'accepting responsibility' and 'accounting for one's actions' and Responsibility defined in terms of 'a duty you are expected to do'. 

In business, Accountability is what we want.

In business we want people who accept responsibility for performing duties and understand the importance of accounting for their actions. When our businesses employ those sort of people we can rely on them to perform. And we can rely on them to let us know when they are having difficulties.

It's the communication implicit in accountability that caused it to arrive before responsibility.



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