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Better to be skilled at puzzles than cross words.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 16, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

When you are skilled at puzzles you deliver value.

When you are skilled at cross words you remove value.

Constructive criticism is an oxymoron.

 

Trust is gained in small increments, one consistent action at a time.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 14, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Trust is lost in large lumps, one misunderstood-inconsistent action at a time. 

So, the scale is weighted against you...or, is it weighted for you?

You can perceive it either way...it doesn't matter as long as you are objective about it and do not begrudge the reality of it.

When it comes to trust, the scale is weighted: it isn't just about your perceptions of your intentions and your actions; it's about other people's perceptions of your actions and your intentions; small understood-consistent actions build trust in small increments; small misunderstood-inconsistent actions destroy trust in large lumps.

PS: Trust: an interpersonal juxtaposition: so fragile, so essential, so egoic...Perceptions of Interests and Actions...laced with biases that are somehow and somewhy ingrained to protect egos. Trust: the fundamental human-to-human consideration.

Ignorance is bliss; enlightenment is bliss: the work in between is the tough part.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 12, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

For some reason, we have an old saying, "Ignorance is bliss." Obviously, that's an exaggeration...or is it?

At the other end of the spectrum, many gurus have taught, "Enlightenment is bliss." I think that may be true...however, not having reached that state I cannot say for sure.

Yes - work is challenging...it tests us, it resists our desires, and it strengthens us. 

And perhaps, as James Allen taught, perfection and work-mastery bring bliss as work-challenges vanish.

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Attitude: Creating Positive Attitude | Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Humour | Thought Tweets

Only when comforable with your communication will Egos help you bring about the changes you desire.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 11, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Egos are nitpickers. 

Egos need to be stroked.

Egos don't like unpleasant surprises.

Egos always bring their baggage.

If you point out 1 error the person may accept your feedback. If you point out 2 errors the person likely won't.

by Rick Baker
On Oct 1, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Think about it: what's your tolerance for criticism?

[As you consider that last question...Never mind what your logical mind is tricking you into thinking: what's your emotional tolerance for criticism?]

How much would the average person tolerate?

This person right in front of you - the one you are about to criticize - what's this person's tolerance?

Regardless - whatever you do - don't choose to deliver your criticism in doses of 5 or 4...or 3...or 2. [Stop at 1 or, better still, don't start.]

Even objective, well-intentioned, well-delivered criticism gnaws, rips, and tears into thin skin.

by Rick Baker
On Sep 11, 2020

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Criticism will always gnaw, rip, and tear at thin skin. That is a given. The only question is: how will the thin-skinned person react as the thin skin rips and tears? The natural reactions are fight & flight...aggression & avoidance. 

And, of importance – will ‘motivation’ get dragged into the bloody discussion after the ripping and tearing of thin skin? Sometimes it will. More often the thought will be there, but it will be unspoken. And, as they say, “It's the thought that counts.” I have strong views on ‘motivation’, and my strong views contain intolerance of those who blame others for the failures or the lack of motivation. Bosses have a tough enough job without having to bear the burden of every subordinate’s ‘motivation’.

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