by Rick Baker
On Mar 10, 2011
This is the first Thought Post in a series about how to go about building relationships.
At the end of the series, I will provide a customized summary…Building Relationships, from A to Z.
This Thought Post introduces the Brafman Brothers, Ori and Rom.
The Brafman Brothers wrote ‘Click - the magic of intimate connections’
Brafman Brothers -
how to go about building relationships:
- Magic matters...many describe the moment that way when they experience an instant or very-quick connection with another person [this will be rare – so, when it happens do not ignore it]
- There is power in vulnerability: many people are reluctant to open up...therein lies a key to connection on an emotional level…let down your protective guard
- A few feet make a big difference: proximity is important…get close [but not too close]
- Resonance begets resonance: (1) flow & presence, (2) flow - the experience of being in the zone, and (3) being fully present helps us create resonance...that draws people to us
- Similarity counts...quantity trumps quality...similarity helps create an ‘In Group’ dynamic: focus on the ways you are similar (humour, music, sports, etc.)
- The environment can help foster intimacy
- Certain people are magnets [I immediately thought about Malcolm Gladwell's ‘Connectors’]
- Quickset intimacy can bring out the best in us: the good news is quickset intimacy does not have to be left to chance