“All violence consists in some people forcing others, under threat of suffering or death, to do what they do not want to do.”

Leo Tolstoy

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But…if you must use your whip…beware…you must first put it to use on yourself so everyone knows how strictly you embrace leading by example.

Otherwise, your humbled subjects will think [and likely not say]:

The big problem isn't that you whip people. That's a small piece of a bigger problem. The big problem is that you whip people while you are making mistakes.  How can you be so skilled at whipping other people's mistakes while you are so poor at whipping your own?

Put another way, when people know you can perform in accordance with your own whip they will follow your example...at least for a time. Similarly, when they know you cannot abide by your whip they will follow your example.