From time to time, you feel victimized. We all feel that way, from time to time. There can be good reasons for feeling victimized. Sometimes we are victimized: others attack us verbally and sometimes even physically. Bullies, for example, stole our lunch money or chased us around the schoolyard at recess. When we grew up and went to work the bullies stole our ideas and humbled us in other ways, behind our backs and in front of coworkers.

Over time and with repetition of these victimizing experiences, some of us became victims: developing the self-image of a victim, developing the bad habits of a victim, and exhibiting the persona of a victim. These people are who I am referring to when I use the words, "Always-the-Victim".

Always-the-Victim means a life filled with painful thoughts and negative mindsets.

At the weaker end of the Always-the-Victim spectrum we find the people who chronically exhibit and practice avoidance. At the stronger end of the spectrum we find the bullies who pass on what they have learned. At each of these Always-the-Victim extremes we find the people who pass on and force on to others the thinking and actions that perpetuate the Always-the-Victim condition.

The Always-the-Victim condition relies on heredity and environment for its perpetuation. And, as you know, the world is ripe with people and situations who do their part to act as victims and do what they can to cause others to become victims. This is a part of the human condition. While it appears to be a bad/unpleasant/unfortunate part of human nature, perhaps it is not. Perhaps, it is more like an educational lesson or a test? Perhaps, it is something we should observe (in real time)...then think about your personal thoughts and actions.  Are your thoughts and actions those of a victim? If the answer to that question is "Yes" then are you OK with that or do you want to make some changes?

If you are Always-the-Victim and you want to change for he better, how will you go about that?

Will you change your thoughts?

Will you change your actions?

Will you seek help from others who have mastered the Always-the-Victim condition?