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It takes two to tug-of-war...unless, of course, you choose to battle people in your head.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 15, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

It takes two to tango; it takes two to tangle; it takes two to tug-of-war.

And, more often than not, the two must bring an excess of emotion to escalate the situation.

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Sometimes it only takes one to tango, tangle, or tug-of-war. We all are quite capable of dancing with and fighting with imaginary foes in our heads.

People Question Their Bosses’ Decisions [“The Point”]

by Rick Baker
On Apr 13, 2017

I won’t be surprised in the slightest way if you figure The Point is a rather trite point. My argument is – it isn’t a trite point.

The Point is a point worth thinking about.

Here’s where I am coming from…

Some bosses behave as if The Point is not true, or, more accurately, they behave as if it better not be true. Sometimes, we call these people Autocrats. They rule with absolute power. And they are very inclined to make stiff, inflexible rules…Master Rules [i.e., Master Rules under full double entendre].

Some bosses behave as if The Point is true, however, they fight against it every, single workaday of their lives*. Sometimes they are surprised when people question their decisions. Sometimes they get huffy when people question their decisions. Almost always, they feel and show negative emotions when people question their decisions.

Perhaps, these unhelpful reactions illustrate the flaws of those bosses who feel ‘position power’ provides special rights…rights that make their decisions golden?

Putting a finger on your Leadership pulse…

When your decisions are questioned – do you feel negative emotions?

If so, how’s that working for you?

And, how’s that working for the people who follow you?

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If you are one of those people who question your boss's decisions - do you observe negative reactions?

If so, how's that make you feel?

And, what are you doing to generate better outcomes?

Have you given any thought to The Art of Good Questions?

 

Footnote:

* yes, technically speaking 'workaday' is not a noun...

Honesty and the Other Person's Feelings

by Rick Baker
On Apr 10, 2017

As a child I was admonished to be respectful and take care not to hurt other people’s feelings. 

In general, that’s OK advice. Regardless, I have found it fails as a general rule.

Yes, sometimes our honesty hurts other people. Children often make innocent comments that adults find inappropriate. For example, children notice and comment on differences in people’s appearance and that can be very embarrassing for adults, especially parents. So, with fear of hurting other people’s feelings in mind, early in life many of us learn to place our natural [accurate and innocent] thoughts on hold and keep them to ourselves. Later, as we become less child-like [and more adult-like] we learn to adjust our communication in ways that conceal our true thoughts and replace them with adult-acceptable messages. 

Now, as this 21st Century continues to unfold, it seems feelings are reigning near supreme. 

Are feelings going to undermine honesty?

Considering other people’s feelings: 

Where should lines be drawn between honest expression of thought and suppression of expression? 

Are we doing a good enough job teaching children they and other people have the ability to control their reactions to other people’s words? In fact, with some education and effort each of us can learn self-control, including control over our feelings…are we teaching that to our children?

Are we providing education that opens minds to thickening skin?

If you are uncomfortable with your work, that's contagious. If you enjoy your work, that's contagious.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 9, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

What type of attitude are you spreading?

How much is your attitude affecting the people you work with?

Are you inspiring people & growing profits?

When you design change you must do it in a way that helps people get over their fears.

by Rick Baker
On Mar 27, 2017

The Thinking Behind the Tweet

Dr. Jonathan Haidt described people’s behaviour using the following metaphor. People behave as if they are Riders on Elephants on Paths. Riders are our logical side. Elephants are our emotional side. And, Paths are the situations we face. Elephants are tough to control and they get worried or frightened easily. Also, Elephant cannot jump…over hurdles. So, when we design Change we must do it in a way that helps Elephants get over their fears.

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Change: Creating Positive Change | Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Thought Tweets

Love success and exert yourself striving for it OR Hate fear so much you do whatever it takes to remove it.

by Rick Baker
On Mar 26, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Based on all the ‘Can’t Do’ stuff I have seen and heard, if you must hold fear in your mind then I’d suggest you work on your mind to ensure you fear failing so much that you give yourselves one choice - success.

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Attitude: Creating Positive Attitude | Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Thought Tweets

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