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SITUATIONS, Bad Habit Reactions, Good Habit Reactions

by Rick Baker
On Aug 26, 2013

Workplaces provide a range of situations rich with ripe emotions.

Neil Fiore, in his book 'The NOW habit at Work' (2010), provided an interesting explanation of how Initial Thoughts produce natural Reactions and how people can take Corrective Actions to remedy those Reactions.

Since People Do Only 3 Things: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things it makes sense to reframe Initial Thoughts & Reactions and Corrective Actions in terms of Bad Habits (Initial Reactions & Reactions) and New Things to do (Corrective Actions, which if repeated successfully over a period of time can become Good Habits).

Here's a reframed look at the relationship between your initial thoughts and the reactions they produce:...and corrective actions

When your initial thought is one of danger or fear, this Bad Habit can bring you stress. Your natural corrective action is to seek safety. The Good Habit you must develop to overcome this Bad Habit is the ability to accurately identify whether or not your sense of danger and your fear emotion are based in reality. If you find you have a Bad Habit of overreacting then you need to develop the Good Habit of taking the time to do a better job of analyzing situations. You need to anticipate tough situations and learn and practice how to handle them. You need to bolster your self-confidence.

When your initial thought is one of indecision or passivity, this Bad Habit can bring you procrastination. The Good Habit you must develop to overcome this Bad Habit is adjusting your mindset to think in terms of options, choices, and empowerment. To get this done you can develop a way of investigating the root cause of your indecision or passivity and resolve that root cause. Or, better still, don't get tied up worrying about the cause - just give the situation a bit of thought then take the best action you can think of. Understand you always have the ability to act.

When your initial reaction is one of self-doubt and self-criticism, this Bad Habit can bring you the feeling of being overwhelmed. The Good Habit you must develop to overcome this Bad Habit is the ability to focus your thoughts on tasks. Set small goals. Quickly, take the first baby-task step toward that small goal. Celebrate small achievements.

When your initial reaction is to think about the past or the future, this Bad Habit can bring you anxiety. The Good Habit you must develop to overcome this Bad Habit is the ability to get present. You cannot change the past; you cannot predict the future; you can adjust how you think about the present and you can decide your next action.

Thought Tweet #809

by Rick Baker
On Aug 22, 2013

Thought Tweet #809 What time-management lesson do you learn from people who have the habit of saying, "I'm too busy"?

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

What skill comes first

Using your time productively?

- or -

Helping others use their time productively?

 

Would you want to learn time-management from a person who fails to arrive on time? 

Would you want to learn time-management from a person who does not deliver on promises?

Would you want to learn time-management from a person who fails to return phone calls or email?

Thought Tweet #808.5

by Rick Baker
On Aug 21, 2013

Thought Tweet #808.5 When misery enjoys company people don't accomplish constructive things.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Empathy - is it the ability to feel what someone else feels?

Or - is it the ability to understand what other people are feeling?

It seems to me Sympathy is the word for sharing feelings while Empathy is the word for understanding another person's feelings.

Does it make a difference? Yes - people may not share feelings yet be quite capable of understanding them. People may share feelings and do it so intensely they exacerbate the feelings - misery loves company. When misery enjoys company people don't accomplish constructive things. When company understands misery there is an opportunity for constructive, comfortable change.

The problem with programmed How-To courses

by Rick Baker
On Aug 19, 2013

When it comes to education, people won't bend over backwards!

The problem with programmed How-To courses - I mean the problem with book-long, multi-lesson, packaged education with role playing - is - they do not work.

On average, people can remember about 7 things, maybe 9. So, no matter how terrific a How-To education course might appear to the folks who spent hundreds or thousands of hours creating it, other people will understand little of the content and put even less of it to good use.

Most people cannot remember dozens let alone hundreds of pages of How-To instructions. So, as soon as they see a volume of self-improvement education they turn off. Even if they suspect it could contain good stuff, most people know they will not take the time to study the volume. If they start to read it, most people soon stop and replace the activity with something offering more-immediate gratification.

Everyone knows that.

And most people don't bend over backwards to obtain self-help.

To address this problem, the folks who teach self-improvement focus on increasing the entertainment value in the delivery of the knowledge.

Yes, entertainment value = near-term gratification [of some sort].

But, single doses of entertainment value do nothing to promote improved learning of good habits. Prolonged repetition of single doses of entertainment value may breed some near-term warm-and-fuzzy-this-education-is-fun thoughts...and may even go so far as to provide a little jolt of self-motivation. However, entertainment value will not cause the lessons to stick and take hold. 

To help people self-improve we need to do 2 things well:

  1. We need to deliver education in small doses...small simple steps. In the long run, simplicity outruns entertainment value. Simplicity captures clarity and appeals to common sense. Learners have always built their learning on simplicity: consider the building blocks of our childhood and the building blocks of the Great Pyramids. Simple pieces. Spirited Leaders has developed 1-Page Tools with this in mind. To accomplish much - learn, take, and repeat simple steps until they become foundations for good habits. We need to resist the urge to create even-more-clever emotion-grabbing phrases and fancy-packaging of advice. We need to keep our entertaining acronyms and educational mind-pictures under control. We need to be more comfortable expressing common sense.
  2. We need to customize the education to fit individuals. Textbooks work well when students are facing the gun that demands, "Learn or fail". And, even if there is no performance gun, textbooks work well for some people...for example, those people whom Gallup assesses as 'Learner' tend to enjoy textbooks and full-length How-To manuals. On the other hand, Gallup-Learners are only a small fraction of the people we encounter every business day. Most people do not like textbooks, manuals, or other things that remind them of the learning-guns they faced when in school. Yet, most people do want to learn...they just don't want to do it your way...they want to do it their way. We can help them develop skills by incorporating their real-life situations into our education processes rather than asking them to suffer through things like awkward role playing. To do this, we need to expand 1-on-1 education activity...with a focus on customizing rather than standardizing.
So, when we help business leaders we need to:
  • ensure we capture common sense,
  • seek simple,
  • deliver education in small doses, &
  • customize education to fit individuals.

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1-Page Tools | Habits: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things | Seeking Simple!

Thought Tweet #804.5

by Rick Baker
On Aug 15, 2013

Thought Tweet #804.5 What is it about Urgency that allows it to beat Importance, time after time?

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

When we face urgent situations they almost always capture our attention and action...even if we know we should be doing more-important things. 

Urgency is always hanging around the roots of Bad Habits

Tags:

Habits: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things | Leaders' Thoughts | Thought Tweets

Thought Tweet #797.5

by Rick Baker
On Aug 6, 2013

Thought Tweet #797.5 "I'm too busy." When you say that you inject yourself with a dose of stress.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Your brain reacts when you say things like, "I'm too busy." and "I don't have time." When your brain hears you say things like that it, subconsciously, begins to work to help you out. Your brain knows time is a thing it cannot control. Your brain knows your body is a thing it can control. So, your brain works to control your body by providing it chemical and electrical changes to help it deal with the stress you are telling it you are under by saying things like, "I'm too busy." and "I don't have time." 

Self-stressing about time...now there's a destructive habit!

PS: Successful People Have More Time.

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