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Egos At Work - revisited

by Rick Baker
On Nov 12, 2015
When I use the word ‘ego’, I mean that little voice that talks to you from within your head. You may have noticed: when you are in a conscious and lucid state, that little voice of ego talks incessantly. I have likened it to a little panel of judges…ego is always ready to judge you…and ego is even more ready to judge others. The ego, acting like a little panel of judges in your head, judges quickly and harshly. It has opinions on everything and everyone. It is always making demands and suggestions on how you should go about making yourself feel good and look good.
 
Your ego [and my ego and everyone else’s ego] spends all its time seeking something ‘better’.
 
Ego is the human, all too human, side of human being.
 
Ego continuously seeks more pleasure.
 
Ego continuously seeks less pain.
 
 
Your ego continuously seeks approval from other people...and regularly falls short of receiving the level of approval it seeks.

Your ego finds itself in ongoing skirmishes involving 'right' and 'wrong'...ego gets whipsawed by conscience as it works to reign over your inside and your outside voices.

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Here’s a different perspective on ego…
 
We have said people behave like Riders on Elephants on Paths.  Now we are saying ego is the source of your behaviours.
 
You have your Elephant-And-Rider combo.
 
Every person has an Elephant-And-Rider combo.
 
Each Elephant-And-Rider combo has its little voice called ‘ego’.
 
 
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When your little voice of ego speaks to you from inside your head it wants very much to get its way.
 
Your ego has a powerful and compelling force.
 
Yet, your ego is often misguided.
 
Bad Habits are the consequence of ego working to 'get its way' when the ego is misguided…and the ego is misguided quite a bit of the time. Taking full advantage of the Haidt metaphor…your ego is misguided when your Elephant overpowers your Rider. When that happens, your ego will make misguided demands.
 
 
 
First posted September 1, 2011 
 
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More thoughts about Egos:  Egos, Communication, & Positive Changes

Nobody Likes Tired People

by Rick Baker
On Nov 5, 2015

When you get right down to it, nobody likes tired people. You cannot count on tired people. Tired people may not be there when you want or need their help. Tired people lower the energy bar…others tend to mirror their lack of energy…so when tired people enter the room the atmosphere becomes de-energized. Tired people may not finish the tasks at hand…they may run out of energy before the job is done. Tired people may quit too quickly, quit too easily…giving up before the goal is achieved…letting down co-workers.

There’s a long list of reasons why nobody likes tired people.

In addition, for a variety of reasons, Nobody Likes:

  • Lazy people
  • People who lie, cheat, or steal
  • Loud people
  • Greedy people
  • Demanding people
  • People who boast
  • People who complain 
  • Angry people
  • Intolerant people
  • People who know it all
  • Disagreeable people
  • Argumentative people
  • Holier-than-thou people
  • Smug people
  • Condescending people
  • Arrogant people

With a little more thought we could add a number of other off-putting personality traits/operating styles.

When you stop to think of it, there sure are lots of ways to annoy other people and put them off.

Putting one another off: that's part of the human condition.

This leads to two conclusions:

  1. We need thick skin. We will, at least from time to time, exhibit off-putting behaviour. Others will be put off by our behaviour and they will make that clear to us by expressing criticism. We must be prepared for that. When it arrives, we must keep our ego in check. We must accept that as part of the human condition. We must focus on desired goals rather than undesired behaviour [on the route to those goals].
  2. We need to fight the urge to criticize others. We are susceptible to Attribution Bias, which distorts our view of reality and our view of other people's frailties and errors. We cannot allow ourselves to get bogged down in petty-opinion conflicts. We must focus on goals...we must focus on the Why! We must help others perform the tasks that lead to successful performance.

The Joy(?) of Business Stress & Struggle

by Rick Baker
On Sep 24, 2015

Many people appear to enjoy the day-to-day struggles of business. We see them choosing to fight the same battles, repeating the same struggles over and over. Sometimes, they repeat the same interpersonal battles, day after day: battling the same people; arguing about the same topics; using the same [losing] combat strategies and tactics - giving no ground, gaining no ground.

Stresses run high during these repeat battles, in some situations to almost unbearable heights. Regardless, the battles rage on and on and on…repeating themselves over and over and over.

Many people seek no help to put an end to these battles. 

Many people refuse help when it is offered.

Many people choose to remain on the interpersonal battlefield…accepting the status quo, accepting the useless struggles, and accepting the resulting business failures.

Why?

Why do business people choose to fight the same battles over and over and over?  Are they simply brutes for punishment?  Do they believe there are no better ways? Or, do they derive gratification from such experiences? Do they enjoy dragging others into the battles, killing energy and killing success-spirit?

Do you have any of these people at your business?

If so – what are you doing about it?

 

What are you doing to ensure your business is not bogged down in personality-challenged battles?

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Personalities @ Work | Questions?: The Art of Asking Good Questions

Victim or Victor?

by Rick Baker
On Aug 26, 2015

"Our circumstances and environment are formed by our thoughts."

 Charles Haanel

‘The Master Key’, (1917)

 

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You either believe that, disbelieve it, or you are not quite sure. 

Only one of those three choices excuses you from an obligation to exercise your power of will. 

Only one of those three choices places your success firmly in your hands - and before that, firmly in your thoughts.

The following 'picture' comes to mind...

When I was a child, adults used a saying, "It takes all kinds". That saying was uttered in response to someone else acting in a strange way. It was a quick way of signaling the fact people behave in many different ways. That is true: people do behave in very different ways. Often, regardless of their deep beliefs, people behave in very different and unpredictable ways. And, sometimes people behave in fickle, inconsistent ways.

In fact, when you really stop and observe, people are walking/talking contradictions. If that were not the case then we wouldn't have had tom come up with that admonition, "Talk the talk and walk the walk".

Back to, or at least toward, the point behind this post...

Every rational person, at least to a degree, behaves in ways that confirm belief in the view that our circumstances and environment are formed by our thoughts. Every rational person knows that thought precedes action, some of the time if not most of the time. And, every rational person knows that tomorrow’s ‘future circumstances and environment’ are affected by today’s actions, some of which are the consequences of today’s [or yesterday’s] thoughts.

So, every rational person embraces [at least to a small degree] the ‘Law of Attraction’.

And, every rational person places at least a small amount of belief in ‘Power of Will’.

It is only a matter of degree…

...and how we intend to put this belief to good, constructive use.

In awe of fiery-magnetism

by Rick Baker
On Apr 13, 2015

Around you, the earth is scorched…burned with lack of trust.

Yet…

Somehow: you don't even see the tortured soil or the burning or the burned.

Somehow: oblivious, you sear through leadership with distorted appreciation of your power of ignition.

Somehow: you are fiery-magnetic; you attract the kindling required for your fires; the kindling willingly delivers itself into your flames.

Yes…

You accomplish great feats.

You accomplish great injury.

You place your mark on people, both literally and figuratively.

Yes…

There is awe in leadership by fiery-magnetism.

Tags:

Hero Worship | Leaders' Thoughts | Personalities @ Work

My fiascotic day

by Rick Baker
On Apr 8, 2015

I’ve had many good days.

I’ve had some bad days too.

Such is the nature of life.

Until recently, I had never experienced a fiascotic day.

This fiascotic day was so bad I had to create a new word to describe it.

I’m talking about a day that hit a new pinnacle of 24-hour utter failure.

Yes – I recognize the word I made up violates the Greek suffix rules. I don’t care…this day violated every rule of mathematics and most of the fundamental rules of the social sciences so why not violate the rules around suffixes. Violation of our fine English language is a minimum violation in the overall scheme of the fiascotic day I’m talking about here.

I’d like to share the details of my fiascotic day with you, however - there’s no point. You would end up witnessing a suffix-violating fellow ranting on about his day of escalating and exploding failures and you would find it all far too fantastic to be believed.

And - I wouldn’t blame you.

Throughout my fiascotic day, I had to pinch myself several times in hopes my perceptions would turn out to be nothing more than a fully unpleasant dream-nightmare. Several times, just before pinching myself, I thought, “This must be some sort of crazy nightmare. What else could explain why everyone else is numbed or oblivious to these relentless waves of carnage?”

Alas, it was not a dream-nightmare.

It was my fiascotic day.

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Attitude: Creating Positive Attitude | Humour | Personalities @ Work

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