Our CFFB roundtable group has a habit of doing self-discovery exercises at our monthly meetings. Recently, we discussed “6 THINGS HAPPY PEOPLE NEVER DO”.
We found the exercise through an internet search, which we summarized as:
“Happy people do a lot of things. They spend time expressing gratitude, cultivating optimism, practicing kindness, nurturing loving relationships, committing to meaningful goals, savoring life’s little pleasures, and so on and so forth.
But they NEVER…
1: Mind other people’s business
2: Seek validation of Self-Worth from others
3: Rely on other people and external events for happiness
4: Hold onto resentment
5: Spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments
6: Resist the truth”
With that internet-inspired background, we asked ourselves:
What would you add to the list?
What’s something you should NOT do if you want to be happy?
Then, when we met as a group, we shared and discussed our self-discovery answers.
Here are some of the things we think happy people never do:
- Rely on indulgences to feel better
- Try to change other people
- Blame others
- Show up to prove, instead they show up to improve
- Consume negative media
- Watch their partners billable hours at work
- Spend too much time worrying about the future
- Allow tragedy to become part of their identity
- Live in the past
- Base self-identity on their financial status
- Try to do it all themselves
- Say "Yes" when they want to say "No"
- Stop learning
- Relax when their talents and strengths are lying dormant
- Fail to feel uncomfortable when they err and violate their personal values
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It seems to me the people in our CFFB roundtable group are life-long learners. And, we recognize self-knowledge is the starting point…