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Courage breeds Confidence and Confidence breeds Conviction & Creativity.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 9, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

It takes courage to face adversity. It takes courage to face criticism. It takes courage to face change. 

Children are born courageous and independent-minded. But, often, that is discouraged.

It takes wisdom to re-build courage.

It seems - providing advice on how to succeed is nowhere near as difficult as helping people succeed.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 7, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Most people have lots of advice [opinions, suggestions, criticisms, commands, etc.] to share with others.

Few people edit/tailor their communications to actually help others. 

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For decades, sales people have been taught: "Sell, Don't Tell".

That sales education aligns with this Thought Tweet. In sales, people are taught to give consideration to the other party's needs. 

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"If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader."

John Quincy Adams

Courage is the 'Prime Enabler'. It enables self-analysis, self-confidence, curiosity, creativity, & innovation.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 5, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

It takes courage to face adversity. It takes courage to face criticism. It takes courage to face change

Children are born courageous and independent-minded. But, often, that is discouraged.

It takes wisdom to re-build courage.

Stepping On, Stepping Aside, & Stepping Up

by Rick Baker
On Apr 3, 2017

"Whenever we focus on what others need to do we give away our power and let ourselves off the hook."

John Izzo

'Stepping Up', (2012)

While this quote is tied to standing back and expecting others to step up to create positive change, it has some very interesting implications in the area of criticizing others' performance.  

One conclusion: We will be far better off if we learn to step aside and analyze our own actions and motives before we criticize other people’s actions and motives. 

So this John Izzo quote has value in two areas.

When we face problems we can: 

  1. step up rather than step aside and
  2. step up rather than step on other people. 

At least every once in a while, each one of us feels the urge to criticize other people's words, actions and motives. In a sense, we feel the urge to step on other people. Before we step on others, we ought to take a breath, take a time out, step aside, and think about our own motives and actions.  If we cannot do this then we must understand our criticism of others is probably not well grounded. It is biased. It is flippant. It is reactive. It is poorly thought out. 

Also, if we cannot step aside and hold back on criticizing others when they are doing the best they can then we likely lack the ability to step up and do things beyond the things we are currently doing.  And, even if we do have the ability to step up our motives will likely be flawed.  Rarely do flawed motives result in successful stepping up

So -

Stepping aside is better than stepping on and stepping up is better than stepping aside

If we step on we are stepping toward failure.

If we step aside we are in a position to watch success.

If we step up we are stepping toward success.

Self-knowledge unlocks success. 

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Criticism: Constructive Criticism is an Oxymoron | Leaders' Thoughts

Keep your eyes & ears open: They may be able to preach what they cannot practice.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 2, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

"Do as I say, not as I do."  &  "Practice what you preach.

We use these sayings as justifications and criticisms when advice appears sanctimonious or disingenuous.

The first saying may be more annoying than helpful...just throwing gas on the fire. The second saying is a close-minded response to people who give us advice they, themselves, cannot follow.

While it would be wonderful if all the people who provide advice were masters of performance, we should not expect our teachers will be masters of performance: knowing how and doing well are 2 different things. For example, the maestro conductor does not have the combined performance abilities of all the master performers in the orchestra. Nonetheless, the maestro conductor has the ability to teach all the master performers.

When you criticize people their brains scream "No" and constructive communication is over.

by Rick Baker
On Mar 25, 2017

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

When 'No' thoughts are filling the brain there is little room for 'Yes" thoughts. In fact, chances are 'No' and 'Yes' thoughts will not want to occupy the brain at the same time. They would rather take turns. And, for most people the 'No' thoughts are much more sticky. When they find their way into people's brains they stick there until they run out of reasons to defend and bolster the ego.While 'No' thoughts are sticking around the brain, working away to defend and bolster the ego there is little, if any, opportunity for constructive communication...particularly communication involving the person who triggers the 'No' response.

 

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