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Mistakes become demons only when they know we haven't learned their lessons.

by Rick Baker
On May 4, 2019

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We give life to our mistakes when we allow them to get the better of us. As we worry about them, we give them power...the power of demons. When we learn the lessons they are trying to teach us, our mistakes no longer possess the power of demons. Objective thought is the key to learning lessons from our mistakes. Objective thought does its best work when our emotions are under our control. 

 

"Prediction is very difficult, especially if it's about the future." [a quote, far from Yogi Berra and Mark Twain]

by Rick Baker
On Apr 17, 2019

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

While those words could have come from the lips of Yogi Berra or Mark Twain, they did not.

It is a quote from the Danish Physicist, Niels Bohr (1885-1962). Bohr had a terrific personality and [it seems] sense of humour.

And, of course, he was a deep thinker. Here is another example: The opposite of a fact is falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth.

When tempted by worries...think of this Niels Bohr quote.

 

It takes two to tug-of-war...unless, of course, you choose to battle people in your head.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 15, 2019

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

It takes two to tango; it takes two to tangle; it takes two to tug-of-war.

And, more often than not, the two must bring an excess of emotion to escalate the situation.

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Sometimes it only takes one to tango, tangle, or tug-of-war. We all are quite capable of dancing with and fighting with imaginary foes in our heads.

Influencing Powerful People - #12

by Rick Baker
On Apr 13, 2019

Probably, most people should not work for powerful people. When I use the words powerful people, I mean people who:

  • hold positions of power over us, 
  • are driven to meet their goals [not ours], and 
  • put lots of pressure on us as we try to do work for them.
On top of this, powerful people tend to get things done, change their minds, discount others' abilities, be stubborn, be dismissive...etc.

In his book, 'Influencing Powerful People', Dirk Schlimm provides 16 major strategies and dozens of suggestions on how we can improve our ability to work with powerful people. 

He also advises, “Deciding not to work for or with a powerful person is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom.” 

That piece of advice triggered a memory - I once heard an educational guru speak words like, "People can behave in offensive ways, however, you do not have to be offended." The point was, some people behave in ways that others consider offensive. That's a choice they make. You have the ability to either be offended or not be offended by their behaviour. That's a choice you make.

I get that message and acknowledge it is accurate thinking and good advice. Here's an article I wrote on this topic a few years ago. 

While the advice is good, often, in real-life situations people cannot control their emotions and as a result they become offended when others behave offensively. Most people become offended when their powerful bosses behave offensively. The state of our emotions and our skills at self-control determine the outcome.

So, if we find ourselves getting anxious and stressed out because our bosses behave in ways that trigger our fears and bad emotional responses, we should remember Dirk's advice. 

“Deciding not to work for or with a powerful person is not a sign of weakness but of wisdom.” 

We can choose to not work for that boss.

This gives us at least 3 options:

  1. Choose to learn Dirk's strategies and tactics for changing how we behave so we do better when dealing with powerful people.
  2. Choose to follow Dirk's advice as captured in the above quote and stop working for the powerful boss.
  3. Choose to carry on as is and continue to have miserable work experiences.

Clearly, that last option is the poorest of the 3.

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Family Business and CFFB | Influencing | Leaders' Thoughts

If you are uncomfortable with your work, that's contagious. If you enjoy your work, that's contagious.

by Rick Baker
On Apr 9, 2019

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

What type of attitude are you spreading?

How much is your attitude affecting the people you work with?

Are you inspiring people & growing profits?

Unresolved, lingering problems gnaw away at brain energy. Attack problems and pluck that destructive power away from them.

by Rick Baker
On Mar 31, 2019

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The brain represents 2% of body mass while it consumes 20% of body energy. 

The brain is 'energy intensive'.

Much brain energy is consumed/wasted on negative thinking - i.e., wasted on negative feelings and emotions...wasted on rumination & worry.

You gain energy-value when you reduce your brain's energy-waste.

So - Tackle problems quickly: hit 'em high, hit 'em low...rip the ball out from their hands.

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