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Don't children have a high opinion of themselves!

by Rick Baker
On May 9, 2012

While out to dinner last week, I noticed a young couple at a nearby table. They had a young daughter. I would guess she was a little over two years old. At one point the father tried to spoon-feed the child. As he did this his young daughter quickly held up her hand and turned her head away from her father...clearly signaling she didn't want the food he was offering. 

As the father and the spoon retreated his daughter had a half-smile on her face. With bright eyes, she looked at both her parents, from one to the other, then back. No words. Not defiant. Just confident. Her expression said it all.

This happened in no more than a few seconds...and, for some reason, I thought to myself, "Don't children have a high opinion of themselves!" Even as young as 2 years old, don't children have a high opinion of themselves! 

Tots, possessing that sort of communication ability and self-confidence...what a marvelous gift to have at such a young age.

Then, as Baumeister1 said: "Life is a tempering experience."

 

Footnote:

  1. 'WILLPOWER', Roy F. Baumeister & John Tierney, (2011)

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Attitude: Creating Positive Attitude | Beyond Business

Self-Control: The Battlefield

by Rick Baker
On May 8, 2012

Self-Control: the battlefields where logic is outnumbered by emotions and desires.

It seems most people face a life-long war over self-control. 

The battles about Self-Control happen on 2 fronts:

  1. The Desires Front: where short-term 'pain' fights & struggles with long-term gain 
  2. The Emotions Front: where Logic is alone, surrounded & ounumbered, and must face Emotions
The Desires Front
 
I am going to make this personal...I am going to talk about chocolate ice cream. I desire that. I desire it on scorching-hot summer days. And, I desire it on bitter-cold winter days. And, I desire it on many days in-between. I also desire healthy arteries and 36" belts. So, the battle lines get drawn. I can have and enjoy the chocolate ice cream today...or...I can have and enjoy good health in the future. Now, I know I could choose a compromise where I limit the amount of chocolate ice cream I eat; however, it is very hard for me to do that because I'm dealing with (1) chocolate and (2) ice cream. Self-control is the battlefield. Logic is surrounded by conflicting desires for and against chocolate ice cream.  
 
The Emotions Front
 
One example: Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. I remember my parents teaching me that when I was a child. And, I believe I understood the underlying message. However, it took me a number of decades to be able to conquer my emotions to the point where I felt comfortable writing The Joys of Thick Skin & a Thin Skull.  The logic is sound: there is no reason why criticism should cause injury or trigger negative emotions. Yet, for some people, likely for most people, it does. And, some people are born with, or develop at an early age, a natural tendency to experience the emotion of anger when they are criticized. I know that's the way I was. Self-control is the battlefield. Logic faces, its Goliath, Emotions.

Thought Tweet #472

by Rick Baker
On May 8, 2012

Thought Tweet #472 The work of learning is justified by the growth that follows.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

The reason for learning is growth. Growth takes form as the wisdom needed for personal development, the wisdom needed to understand and constructively interact with other people, and the comfort that comes with a confident spirit. 

 

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Beyond Business | Thought Tweets

Thought Tweet #471

by Rick Baker
On May 7, 2012

Thought Tweet #471 Better to be stuck on sticky problems than to be burned by fire-fighting.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

In business, we need to save our brainpower for innovative and creative work. When we fire-fight those daily fires, we remove our ability to excel at problem-solving and opportunity-capturing. This is especially so if our ongoing fires generate emotional heat, which they often do. When we fight fires we get burned at least 2 ways: (1) we burn energy in our brains that could be used to fuel better-caliber thinking and (2) we burn time that could be spent on better-caliber work or other important activity. This is confirmed by the 80/20 Rule. It is at the root of ancient wisdom, "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure".

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80/20 Rule | Brain: about the Human Brain | Thought Tweets | Wisdom: Surviving the Test of Time

Thought Tweet #470

by Rick Baker
On May 4, 2012

Thought Tweet #470 Often, people don't do stuff because they don't know How.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Often, it can be that straightforward. People simply do not know How. Perhaps, they have been told and shown...but the still don't know How. Perhaps, they have read the manual but they don't know How. There could be any number of reasons. The really important thing is - they don't know How. When people don't know How a display of emotion is the last thing they need.

Thought Tweet #469

by Rick Baker
On May 3, 2012

Thought Tweet #469 Better to procrastinate when the task is under-whelming than when it is over-whelming.

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Much as our mothers admonished about other matters and manners, "There is a time and a place". This applies too to procrastination. Procrastinate For Success

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Beyond Business | Thought Tweets

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