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How do we develop Bad Habits?

by Rick Baker
On Apr 30, 2013

In reaction to our fears and pain, we seek comfort & relief in the form of Bad Habits.

We develop our Bad Habits 3 ways:  

  1. When we protect our ego by avoiding challenging situations and replacing them with not-challenging, comforting situations. 
  2. When we bolster our ego by being aggressive with other people. Aggression appears in a wide range of forms. It can be as blatant as physical assault and as subtle as a harsh glance. 
  3. When we justify our ego - when we support and encourage our egoic frailties - by complaining to others

Perhaps, #3 is the most destructive because it:

  • occupies the time and consumes the energy of at least 2 people, taking their attention and talents away from important work; 
  • tends to spread to other people...bad news tends to travel...misery enjoys company
  • has a pernicious ability to linger over time. I call this tendency to linger over time a 'Complaint Lifetime". 

Complaints have the ability to live longer than the people who express them.

Prejudices are an example of long-living complaints. They are passed through time, generation to generation. It takes conscious and concerted effort to reduce and remove prejudices.

 

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Emotions & Feelings @ Work | Habits: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things

Squeezing Value Out of Each & Every Workday

by Rick Baker
On Jan 29, 2013

On average, how do you spend your workday:

 

_____% doing step-by-step routine work?

_____% fixing problems that followed your routine work? 

_____% fixing problems that followed someone else's routine work?

_____% handling emergencies?

_____% tackling opportunities?

_____% planning & organizing...for your organization's future?

_____% creating & choosing Ideas for future products & services?

_____% leading, mentoring, & coaching?

100% 

 

We haven't shaken off the economic doldrums because the pie chart for many leaders looks something like this:

 

What's New?

by Rick Baker
On Dec 11, 2012

"Of all the things you seek to control in life, it turns out that one of the most important ones is the introduction of new."

"Bottom line: setting your sights on enjoying new experiences regularly is one of the greatest ways to remain fully engaged, energized, and enthusiastic throughout your lifetime."

Brendon Burchard, 'The Charge', (2012)

When you really stop to think about it, people only do 3 things. People do good habits, bad habits, and new things.

How do new things help you remain fully engaged, energized, and enthusiastic?

You can do New Things to displace Bad Habits. Bad Habits, by definition, feel bad. They feel bad because they are not aligned with your goals. They distract you from your goals and that reduces the likelihood of you achieving your goals. New Things provide information. You can test New Things to determine if they are taking you closer to your goals. Some New Things will take you closer to your goals. If you repeat them then they become Good Habits, which by definition feel good.  

When you feel good you are engaged in thoughts and action...you are energized. When you feel really good you are enthusiastic. 

New Things provide the bridges and paths from Bad Habits to Good Habits.

New Things provide the way to make adjustments so you achieve your goals.

New Things are the key to interesting and positive work experiences.

 

PS: link to Thought Tweet #556

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Habits: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things

Are you positively charged?

by Rick Baker
On Dec 4, 2012

Spirited Leaders has a colour code:

Green = Good

Red = Bad

Blue = New

Orange = Creative

Gray = Neutral or Undetermined

 

We use a Minus10-to-Plus10 Scale to describe a spectrum of feelings:

 Sheer Bliss: Plus10

Enthusiasm Zone: Plus7 to Plus9

Enjoyment Zone: Plus4 to Plus7

Acceptance Zone: Plus1 to Plus4

Ho-Hum: 0

Uncomfortable Zone: Minus1 to Minus4

Distress Zone: Minus4 to Minus7
  
Excruciation Zone: Minus7 to Minus9
 
Absolutely Unbearable: Minus10

 

We believe people only do three things: Good Habits, Bad Habits, & New Things:

Good work habits, work enjoyment, and work enthusiasm...all are positively charged.

Related to this there are specific positive and negative emotions, emotions are coloured.

We know words are also positively and negatively charged. As examples:

CAN    CAN'T

YES    NO

AND    BUT

CERTAINLY    PERHAPS

GO    STOP

ENCOURAGE    CRITICIZE

When we go to work, we have a number of choices to make about how we feel, think, and act.

Some of those choices are positively charged.

Some of those choices are negatively charged.

When choices are to be made...we recommend, changing for the better.

How do people react when you get angry or aggressive at work?

by Rick Baker
On Nov 27, 2012

Do you observe 'fight or flight'?

If so, how do these reactions present themselves?

Do you observe Resistance?

  • fight?
  • verbal resistance?
  • body language resistance: physical resistance, facial resistance, frowns or stiff upper lips?
  • battles of egos?

Do you observe Withdrawal?

  • flight?
  • acquiescence?
  • humiliation?
  • crushed egos?

Do you observe Compliance?

  • Affected Compliance: a win-lose where the other person accepts your position and you apparently win. If you observe well then you will observe the other person losing.
  • 'Unaffected' Compliance: apparently a win-'no change' where you win and you observe a person who has emotions under control. On balance, having emotions under control is a good thing. However, it should not be misconstrued as a good thing that is sustainable. 

We have a colour code at Spirited Leaders:

 

Green = Good

Red = Bad

Blue = New

Orange = Creative

Gray = Neutral or Undetermined


When you get angry or aggressive at work, you will not observe the green in other people.

 

If you don't care whether or not you see green, you will not see much green. And, this applies to both your people and your bottom line.

Thought Tweet #610

by Rick Baker
On Nov 16, 2012

Thought Tweet #610 We ought to avoid the "Negative Society"

 

The Thinking Behind The Tweet

We can choose to avoid or choose to limit our exposure to negative situations, experiences, and people.

Bad news does not have to make good news.

Criticism has no right to reign.

Nero should not have fiddled while Rome burned.

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