By definition, tangents are small things: the tiny beginnings of deviations from the path; by definition, tangents are mini.

Over time, the mini-deviations we make and take from our desired paths grow and the distance between where we are and where we expected to be increases.

Over time, mini-tangent become mega-tangents: this is the law and the nature of tangential things.

Over time, small deviations become enormous disconnections: the prior path becomes less recognizable as it shrinks away.

Tangents, the mini-ones, are the first illustrations of new things...People do only 3 things - good habits, bad habits, & new things.

Tangents, again the mini-ones, are the first steps of change...in nature, for the most part, irreversible.

Tangents, those mini-tangents, are the seeds that sprout the roots of our habits…they are the new things that become either our good habits or our bad habits.

Tangents: this basic geometry governs everything from our daily play to the success of our lives.

When that need to criticize visits...

STOP!

THINK - what is about to happen?

I mean - really THINK about WHY you are about to deliver this piece of Criticism.

What gratification are you seeking?

Are your expectations are reasonable?

Are your expectations fair?

Or, are you simply acting out another piece of bad behaviour? Is another bad habit about to illustrate its control over you?

Or, is this need to criticize about how smart you are and how ambitious you are…is it about proving that to others?

Certainly by now you must have learned salty & stinging criticism does not work.

Or, are you incapable of learning such simple lessons?

Are you destined to continue to make the same mistakes over and over and over again?

Is that the extent of your self-control?