The Thinking Behind The Tweet

Disputes in the work environment often escalate. And, they often spread and affect many people. When you face situations of conflict and dispute remember - It isn't about who's right or who's wrong. It's about who doesn't have emotions under control - and Why?

And, of course, make sure you aren't among those who do not have their emotions under control. 

Emotional disputes do a lot of damage and waste a lot of energy [energy - which, if it wasn't being wasted, could be put to constructive use].

Are you comfortable dealing with problems involving the exchange of money?

When things happen in threes I feel a strong need to explore the synchronicity.  Usually, I come up with what I feel to be a hidden message in the synchronicities.

Recently, I experienced one of these series of similar events. The topic was challenges/disputes involving the collection of money.

The lesson I learned corrected my perspective on how people deal with money challenges/disputes.

Historically, I have talked a lot about people lacking money consciousness. The lesson I learned was most of the people who experience ongoing problems involving collection of money do have money consciousness. Their money problems are not due to a lack of consciousness about money or the fact they deserve the money. Rather, the issue is about their lack of comfort in dealing with people and situations involving money challenges such dealing with people who fail to pay money owed.

And, the issue is also about the balance of power between the people who are strong and skilled at dealing with money challenges/disputes and the people who are not comfortable dealing with money challenges/disputes.

Bullies and confident people tend to win money disputes. When money disagreements arise, the balance of power is held by the bullies and the confident people. Less-confident people have a power shortage and this power shortage works against them unless they take action to work on assertiveness and self-confidence.

About the people who tend to struggle with money disputes and do not work on assertiveness and self-confidence…

Their discomfort dealing with money challenges/disputes remains and often expands, solidifying into deep-rooted bad habits. Their bad habits appear in two forms: one is their inactivity/avoidance when they face tough money issues and the other is their penchant for blaming others for the problems.

Unfortunately, these responses to money problems are not helpful...not helpful when it comes to reducing A/Rs...not helpful when it comes to reducing people's stress levels...not helpful to bottom lines....not helpful in any way.

When people are at work, why do they avoid the details?

Do they feel they are too busy and do not have time to attend to the details?

Do they think the details are someone else's responsibility rather than part of their job?

Do they feel too bored or too fatigued to bother with the details?

Do they choose to avoid the details so they can concentrate on big-picture things?

Do they choose to avoid the details because they know others are more skilled with the details?

Do they choose to avoid certain details so they can think about other details?

Do they feel frustrated as they avoid the details?

Do they feel energized as they avoid the details?

Do they feel weakened as they avoid the details?

Do they feel strengthened as they avoid the details?

Does their business falter as they avoid the details?

Does their business gain advantage as they avoid the details?

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That aversion to the details can be a wonderful thing for all involved...or it can be brutal.

If that aversion to the details is a wonderful thing at your workplace then figure out how to replicate it.

If that aversion to the details is a brutal thing at your workplace then figure out how to stop it.